By Liezel Dayao Moen
November 27, 2001 - A Night That Changed Everything
“Matulog na ako (I’m going to bed). Good night, Pa,” I told my father. I vividly remember the night my father and I shared a heart-to-heart conversation, watching the news together, laughing, and dreaming about life. As I bid him goodnight, I had no idea it would be our final farewell. His sudden passing due to a cardiac arrest, despite his healthy lifestyle, left me and my family shattered.
My father was more than just a parent; he was my best friend, confidant, and guiding light. His unwavering positivity, support, and guidance had shaped me into the person I was becoming. His death crushed my spirit, but his memories, guidance, and principles continue to nurture me.
In the aftermath, I struggled to find meaning. But as I navigated the darkness, I discovered a new perspective on life. I learned to cherish every moment, forgive freely, and love unconditionally. I became more humble, understanding, and gracious, putting aside my defenses and embracing vulnerability.
Through his passing, I learned to be independent and responsible, helping my mother with my younger siblings. I pursued my dreams of becoming a teacher and fulfilling my father's wish that all his children would graduate from college. My father's legacy lived on through me, inspiring me to become courageous and driven. I vowed to support my mother and younger siblings, honoring his memory by pursuing excellence in all aspects of my life.
His death drew me closer to God, growing my faith and inspiring me to serve. I came to know Jesus as my personal Savior and Lord and surrendered my life to him. I began volunteering in the children's ministry at church, eventually becoming the director. I joined the worship team and embarked on missions, using my life to serve and love others.
My journey hasn't been easy, but it's been a rollercoaster ride of growth, learning, and purpose. I've come to realize that tomorrow is never promised, and every moment counts. Every twist and turn is part of my journey.
My life verse now echoes in my heart: "Don't settle for good or better; always give your best. Excellence for God's glory."
I want to use my life to make a difference, serving, loving, and caring for others. My father's legacy lives on through me, inspiring me to live with purpose and impact. I celebrate his life and legacy, honoring his memory by living a life that reflects his values and principles.
As I write this memoir, I'm filled with a mix of emotions - gratitude, love, and a hint of regret. Regret for not appreciating the time I had with my loved ones when they were still with me. Aside from my father’s passing, I am now living thousands of miles away from my mom, four siblings, and my entire family, relatives, and friends in the Philippines when I moved to the US. But I've realized that it's never too late to share the lessons I've learned, in the hopes that others won't make the same mistakes I did.
Value your parents and loved ones while they're still with you. These words may seem simple, but they hold a depth of meaning that I've only come to understand through experience.
Be present in the moments you share with them. Put away your phone, turn off the TV, and engage in conversations that matter. Listen to their stories, their wisdom, and their dreams.
Show appreciation for the little things they do for you. A thank you, a hug, or a small gift can go a long way in showing your gratitude.
Don't take their presence for granted. I remember thinking that my parents/family would always be there, that I had all the time in the world to spend with them. But life has a way of surprising us, and before I knew it, my father was gone, and my family was away from me. Although I can still visit my family every year, Lord willing, I miss all the daily happenings and important events being with them.
Forgive and let go of grudges. Holding onto resentment only steals precious time away from the love and connection you could be sharing.
Create memories that will last a lifetime. Take trips together, try new things, and laugh until you cry.
Lastly, tell them how much you love and appreciate them. Don't assume they know - say it out loud, say it often. I'm glad I did it before, and it changed the culture of our family. We now say “I love you” to each other.
In closing, I hope my story serves as a reminder to cherish the time you have with your loved ones. Don't wait until it's too late. Value them, love them, and show them how much they mean to you. Trust me, you won't regret it!
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